Grandma Kris

I am embarrassed for her. I really am. My first thought is, what the heck are you thinking? Net shirt, ripped jeans, and then there’s the sneakers. But I guess this is really not what my spirit is objecting to here.

Regardless of what you think of the Kardashians, the famed “momager” is now twice divorced and on to the next, as they say. It somehow all seems so tawdry. This is the mom who, for better or worse, had become an icon of motherhood to the many young women who grew up watching Kim, Khloé, and Kourtney before the Jenner girls came of age.

My second thought was, didn’t she learn anything from Demi? Her new beau is 41; she is 58. Nuff said. I am sure the feminist rags out there are just falling all over themselves expressing things like, “Chris the Cougar,” or “She’s Back on the Prowl.” Whatever. I for one am sick to death of seeing grown dang women trying to act like their daughters. My own daughter wouldn’t show her face in public. But Bruce doesn’t get a pass either. Have you seen his hair?

At what divorce does one stop and take a long hard look at herself. Second? Third? There is an entire generation of narcissistic aging boomers out there who still think it is all about them. I hate to step on so many toes here, but when do we accept that we have made our beds and we must lie in them?  When did such virtues as faithfulness and long suffering become so disposable?

Kris has been described as being an American television host, an author, a producer, and a socialite. But Kris, you’re also a grandmother, so I know you came of age during a generation that taught you that it is honorable to live up to your obligations long after they no longer suit your needs or fulfill your dreams. Was the millions of dollars just not enough to keep a girl’s heart content even if the infatuation with the husband was long gone?

Kris and Bruce both wasted no time waiting on the ink to dry on the divorce that marked the end of their 23 years of marriage  before hitting the dating scene. Perhaps I am just nostalgic for grandmothers and grandfathers who were steady, available, and loved one another through thick and thin. Maybe it is just that everything that is so wrong with our families today is personified through this family. Greed, sex outside of marriage, divorce, and vanity. All qualities that God hates. But when we are left to our own devices, we inevitably end up going where our emotions lead us rather than anchoring our lives to the one who can truly guide us. 

In our modern culture, marriage has become a fickle thing, usually lasting only until one party decides it no longer works for him or her. Marriage vows pledged before a God you don’t serve and possibly don’t believe in really don’t have much meaning. It becomes ceremonial and vapid.

My own grandparents served as  the glue and foundation to my own family when divorce ran rampant in the early 70s. They were my one living example of people who didn’t leave, didn’t quit, and didn’t give up or give in.  And they became the safe harbor for two lost kids in a storm.

Titus 2:2-2:4 tells us, “Older men are to be temperate, dignified, sensible, sound in faith, in love, in perseverance. Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children.”

I often lament that even in my middle years there are few women to emulate, to show me the way to walk into these golden years. Rather, I see women like Kris in the media, a woman who has admittedly had two breast augmentations, Botox, and other work done so that she can appear to be youthful.

I think that Kris Jenner is a beautiful smart woman. I just wouldn’t want to be her. She is obviously chasing after something that her six children, husband, fame, gorgeous home, travels, and millions of dollars couldn’t buy her. There is nothing in this world that will fill the void in our hungry spirit other than the creator of our soul.

Those who are Christ followers are called the bride of Christ. And like a real marriage, there are times when we are out of touch with our groom or want to just quit and walk away. And the world will certainly tell you to walk away.  But like my own grandparents, I am in this for the long haul, through sickness and in health and for better or worse, I’m not letting go. When Jesus asked Peter if he, too, would leave him, Peter aptly replied, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have words of eternal life.…”