How to Be a Woman of Substance

Women of substance are generally the busiest, smartest, and most interesting women on the planet, and red-pilled women far surpass the unwashed masses in fulfilling their potential.

Beautiful buildings—and beautiful women—don’t just happen, however. They are executed with great skill, patience and planning. And when completed, they are rock solid gems for all the world to admire and stand the test of time. Here’s how they do it.


Woman of substance know who they are in the core of their being, which is why they can consciously shut out the white noise and lies of feminism and fake social constructs. Their identity is not tied to groups or labels.

These women understand, and are consciously aware of, the hundreds of images, messages and social cues they receive every day. There isn’t one single mainstream magazine, website or movie aimed at women that is not left-leaning and that does not have a feminist message aimed straight at their psyche, either overtly or covertly.

Rather than being swept away by whatever is deemed culturally acceptable, woman of substance thoughtfully analyze messages and weigh them against truth before judging them to be worthwhile pursuits. Woman of substance don’t get caught in the trap of existentialism, marketing and propaganda because they know what they believe in and who they are.


We all serve someone, whether it’s ourselves, the state, our families or a higher power. Women of substance make up their minds early on about who they will serve. They understand that if you live for everything, you stand for nothing. Everything you do from the moment you roll out of bed should consistently be moving you down the path you have chosen.

Woman of substance understand that it is worthwhile to have a plan in order not to become a slave to their emotions or to let others sidetrack them, particularly those people who do not share their values. Despite what you may have been told, you must pick a side.

It is key that you possess convictions on which to build your life and know who you serve. If you’re young, you need to do some deep thinking immediately. Shut out the social media and white noise and examine your heart. What you spend your time on now should be redeemable in the future.

Successful women understand that chasing our fleshly desires today can hurt us tomorrow. Without a road map, you will chase the wind. Women are generally more emotional than men, so it is important to acknowledge this part of your biological makeup and decide who and what you will serve.


Women of substance know that a life that only pursues happiness is not grounded in wisdom. A state of happiness is what immature little girls believe in. Mature, thinking women understand that life is filled with much more pain than it is happiness.

Human suffering is a universal condition for us all. A woman of substance has a mature view of the cycle of life and the world. Therefore, her goal is not temporal happiness, but to take the necessary life steps and decisions now that will align her more closely with a more satisfying life that avoids unnecessary suffering.

The world is filled with disease, hunger, crime, death, disappointment, avarice and liars. The rain in life will come to all of us. “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand.  And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.”

In light of this scripture, it is much more wise to build your life for when the rain comes than seeking a happiness thrill every weekend.


Women of substance understand that they do not live in a vacuum. Everything you do affects someone close to you, whether it is a spouse, a child, a parent or a coworker. If you are living life only for yourself, with no thought to how your actions or behavior affects those around you, it’s time to grow up.

You are likely a mess, a drama queen or a dark cloud when you enter a room. Selfish attitudes lead to selfish behaviors that can wound and destroy those around you, particularly those who you profess to love.

Life requires that we learn and practice the skills of diplomacy, kindness, generosity, forgiveness and persistence. Sadly, many young women today have mastered none of these skills. Rather. they are demanding, spoiled, uncaring, vulgar and thoughtless. They need to learn the art of self-soothing without lashing out at others.

Women of substance don’t give up on relationships at the first sign of trouble or boredom, particularly where children are involved. They also look first at their own behavior and belief systems and are woman enough to admit when they need to redirect. Life requires doing hard things, and it really is of no importance whether or not you like it.


Woman of substance know that there are times when you must do things for others that you don’t necessarily have the time or inclination. They pick up the phone and call their mother or father, who may be lonely for them or just want to be a part of their life.

They check on their elderly neighbor who is a shut-in and thoughtfully bring them a fast food treat, a good book to read or some fresh bread or cookies.

They call that sibling they love but can’t stand to keep the family unit intact and to unconsciously remind them that they are family and still important to you.

They remember their coworkers birthday and make an effort to make them feel special and valued. They take time to be emotionally present for their spouse or their children and, more important, to just listen to what is said and unsaid.

Women of substance don’t do these things to be popular or to receive love or affirmation from others, but because it is the right thing to do and produces inner peace and joy that has nothing to do with the material world we inhabit.


Woman of substance understand that they have sexual power in this world and they are thoughtful in how they present themselves. They dress to enhance their femininity, not to attract sexual attention.

Feminist who want to dress so as not to attract the male gaze have it all wrong. I think it is admirable that they don’t dress to please men, but when is it ever attractive to sport unicorn-colored, shaved hair, large unsightly piercings and tattoos, unkempt clothing or be poorly groomed?

Sorry snowflake, but your entire appearance is a hot mess that tells the world you don’t care about yourself and you are not approachable.

You may not like it that you have to dress to impress, but you cannot change human nature. You’re just not that special. Science has confirmed that people judge strangers within a matter of seconds on first meeting. Don’t waste your time or your youth thinking your, “I don’t give a shit” attitude makes you morally superior. It doesn’t.


Red-pilled women are especially aware that the paradigm they have grown up in is a mixed bag of propaganda, marketing and nefarious government players. As a result, they understand that more than likely they know nothing of real history, literature, the arts, the Bible, or what is behind the political and social struggles of our day.

They understand that from the time they entered first grade, they have been given a point of view in which the government wanted them to have. They understand that they may never have practiced critical thinking and that most social movements and media perspectives don’t serve them well in the end.

Women of substance take the time to re-educate themselves. They read the news, their Bibles and great literature, study history and philosophy and listen to engaged, smart people. They take on the responsibility of self-education. The result is that they are more wise and interesting.

Knowledge is the key to understanding the intellectual and practical life battles you will engage in over a lifetime. Not participating in the world is not an option, but an abdication of your civic responsibilities.

As an American, you have a duty to the Republic as a caretaker and a watchdog. If you don’t care about the Constitution or the nation in which you live, who will? Remember, “It’s not all about you.” You will be held responsible by future generations if you fail to carry out your responsibilities as a citizen.


If you are directionless with no convictions as a young woman in your 20s, you are headed for trouble. You cannot mindlessly participate in clubbing, casual sex or wishy-washy life goals. You don’t have time for that, and I’m here to tell you no one is going to come save you from yourself after you’ve wasted your youth on chasing inappropriate men and mindless activities.

You’re likely going to be damaged goods and an emotional wreck. Despite the Disney princess stories you grew up watching, there is no prince who is going to save you from a dark mean world. A prince wants a princess, not a hot mess.

I’m also going to tell you what many immature modern women don’t know because they have grown up in a protective, technical and entertainment-filled bubble that shields them from the harsh realities of birth and death, hunger and war.

Life is a series of windows, and when you are in your 20s, this is your window to be developing and maturing into your best self in order to attract a life mate and prepare for a family.

I know, I know, that is so sexist, but like any old mother, I’m giving you the straight up truth. Mess around and have a child out of wedlock and do some relationship hopping, and by age 30, your market value has taken a huge tumble and your female psyche is a wrecking ball.

Stop what you are doing immediately and start living with determination or the rest of your life is going to be hard, harsh and lonely. You will struggle alone or as a single mother. Wanting a career, a family or a life partner “some day” won’t gel just through your wishful thinking.

Biology doesn’t afford an extended adolescence. You must start thinking like a woman of substance now in order to become one later. No athlete just wakes up one day and decides to try out for the NFL. It is only after years of training, perseverance and patience that an athlete becomes successful.

The wise and ancient King Lemuel once said, “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life….” This proverb goes on to list the virtues this noble wife possesses, and it is clear from the king’s words that the wife he speaks of is a woman of substance. I would encourage you to read the proverb in its entirety here.

The woman Kind Lemuel extols of great substance. She is a business woman, a mother, a manager, a wife and a merchant. She’s got the entire package. We all want to reign well in this life and to do our very best, but it’s going to take some effort to seize the royal diadem. Are you up to the challenge?