Women Are Failing to Launch and It’s Not Pretty

I am not a fan of Christina El Moussa. I didn’t like her on her real estate series “Flip or Flop” when she was married and I like her less now. The few times that I tuned into her show, I never got the vibe that she was a warm and genuine person I’d enjoy sharing a cup of coffee with. Rather, she struck me as the type of woman who packages herself in such a way as to draw attention to herself, a quality I dislike in people.

Obviously, people can be attractive and likeable but there is something about her persona that strikes me as disingenuous. The Real Housewives franchise is rife with these same type of overdone, fading beauty queens who, at heart, are just mean girls. Their copious use of makeup, overstyled and overdyed tresses, fake fingernails, fake lashes, fake boobs and flesh-flashing attire only serve to make them look harder and older.

There is nothing wrong with being an attractive, still young woman in your 30s showing some leg. I can get behind that. What I can’t get behind is the slavish devotion to always appear in public as if you are ready to star in a porn movie.

The appeal of young women is their complete unawareness of their own beauty and the affect it has on other people. In contrast, women in their 30s and beyond are no longer innocent of their sexual power over the opposite sex and more often than not choose to wield it to manipulate and gain favor and sexual partners.

Much has been written about the extended adolescent of men in their 20s and 30s, but almost nothing said about an entire generation of women who refuse to launch. Historically, mature women were busy focusing on their families rather than expending energy on packaging themselves as potential mates. Not so today.

The number of marriages ending in divorce or women who choose career over family, has left women in their 30s and 40s trying desperately to appear fertile, viable mating material long after that window has closed. Take for instance this snap of Jackie Kennedy, a beautiful woman from a bygone era when women knew how to grow up and be women. She appears completely at ease and natural in her own skin in total contrast to El Moussa’s overdone, attention-seeking style.

El Moussa is part of a generation of women who, although a mother, has no idea how to embrace being a maturing woman in a post-modern world—and it shows in how she presents herself. Today, American women are completely confused over their gender roles, and particularly their own femininity. More important, they have no understanding of biology and the cycle of life.

Having grown up free of any moral and social rules to guide their sexual behavior and urged to postpone marriage and motherhood, a large percentage of women in their 30s and 40s appear completely lost in navigating the windows of their lives.

There is nothing wrong about caring about your appearance and working hard to stay in shape. But I don’t recall ever seeing one single mother in my neighborhood when I was growing up in a skimpy bikini fawning to the camera as El Moussa routinely does.

It isn’t that I want maturing women to look like matrons, it’s that I want them to understand that the decades of our lives are actually time periods in which we are to participate in all of life’s great passages.

I want young women to embrace each stage of their lives, to be free to allow their bodies to mature and change, and to be free to age. And we can’t do that until the lie of endless youth and free choice is put on a leash. The continuous devaluation of motherhood and marriage in media and academia is hurting women and setting them up to be unhappy later in life.

It breaks my mother’s heart to see young, maturing women such as El Moussa feel they must portray the complete porno-packaged woman marketed at them since adolescence if they are to be relevant or valued.  And clearly, El Moussa is receiving validation in the press because she maintains the body of an 18 year old.

Feminist have completely missed the mark on what is oppressing today’s women. It isn’t men that are holding women back, but the calculated social agenda of the far left that has misguided more than two generations of women by inculcating them into believing the unholy Intifada of a false liberation.

Rather than freeing women, the progressive left has enslaved them to a utopian ideal that will not measure up in the end. Someone needs to tell these women that when you play musical chairs with relationships, at some point in the game, the music will end and you will be left standing.

No Virginia, there is a time limit in life and you cannot and you should not, try to be a man in a man’s world. Freedom comes only when we commit to love others, ourselves and our families—through good times and bad, sickness and health. Don’t dedicate your life to fitting into a bikini when you are 45, but dedicate your life to being and doing something that brings lasting value to a hurting world. Reign well my beautiful young friends.